WHAT YOU CAN DO WHEN PARENTS
MISTREAT THEIR CHILDREN IN PUBLIC
(Developed by Parents Anonymous)
1. Sympathize with the parent
Say something like, "She seems to be trying your patience", or "My child used to get upset like that."
2. Divert the angry attention away from the child
Strike up a conversation with the adult. Ask a question or directions, anything to provide a distraction and the time for the parent’s anger to subside.
3. Compliment or praise the parent or child
Say something positive like, "What a big, strong boy you have! How old is he?", or "It’s a lot of work to shop with a toddler. You have my admiration for managing it".
4. Offer sympathy and help
Sometimes a parent’s anger is fueled by some embarrassment at the fuss the child is making. Say something like, "Children sure can wear you out. Is there anything I can do to help?", or "Taking kids out to eat is hard. I’m sure everyone here is remembering that and giving you credit for your patience."
5. Alert the store manager
If you are concerned about the child’s physical safety, ask someone with authority over the parent to communicate something like, "This is a safe place for children. We do not spank here."
6. Quietly stand guard
If the child is being neglected and in jeopardy, for example, a child left unattended in a grocery cart or a toddler at a street or parking lot curbside, wait quietly near the child until the parent returns.
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